Parent & Pot

[SweetLeaf]

I would like you to post all your pro's & con's opinions and facts in this subject.
All are welcome.

[Nica]

I have been smoking pot since I was 12 yrs old and the bad thing is that I know I wouldn't have if my mom didn't send me to a rehab.... that's where I learned what I needed to know. Weed was just what I perfered.... Lord knows I hope my children will just smoke weed instead of the other stuff they are coming up with. I have never lied to my kids and as long as we can sit down and talk about anything.... which all parents should anyways, but don't....I don't think I will have much of a problem. and yes the oldest one knows I smoke and hasn't wanted to try yet, but will let me know when he does. I want to know where they are getting it from so yes I would smoke with them, but not support the habit. Does that sound like I'm a bad parent? Please e-mail me and let me know if I am.
Smoke one for me.... peace out!
Southern Smiles,
Nica in Georgia

[Sweet Leaf]

High Nica!
Well if your a bad parent then so am I!
I beleive in similar things. I have three kids, And I am honest with them about everything. My oldest daughter is 9 and knows about smoking pot (harms & benifits) hemp as a product to save our inviroment. Hemp oil for the body. Fat cat government(Ie: Deny's soceity of earthen items that purify and save the plant,to buy themselves lincon contenentals with gps. And have life time fbi security for there cousins.)
I live in BC which is very drug oriented(good & bad) So I have also spoke to them about cocain,herion,prositution,birth control,guns and many other "unapropriete" subjects.
I feel it's nessacary to be..well..realisitc. How do I explain it....I see it like this.
If you tell a child there thingy is a wee wee they beleive you. If you hide things from your children,they learn to keep secrets, that's the first part of my opinion. I think most people would agree so far..
My problem with this..this is where a lot of parents stop "thinking" so to speak. For some, that's all there is for there children. IE: I have secrets that are bad, accept that. I tell you it's called this, accept it IE: a thingy is a wee,wee) and so on..
Now this method of parenting would be fine...if you lived in a totally secluded area, AND your children never talked or played with kids EVER!
But that's not realistic!! Kids talk!!! Kids Hear!! They trade info & BS there parents have feed them! And this is the other inportant point of my opinion IE they gain knowledge of there own!!!!)
How long do you think it takes a kids to discover a thingy isn't called a wee,wee??? try kindergarten!!! So what have you just "saved" them from? What have you just done? Some parents fail to think about that part!!
Your child has just proven to THEMSELVES that you lye to them!! You have just caused pain,confusion & distrust. What excactly did that save?
You from being uncomfortable while you tell them the truth. That's what it "saved".
Okay next point.
When do kids learn about drugs?? Try grade 1 !!! You can shelter your child only while there with you!! and even then, there not truley sheltered! think about how many conversations you've have sitting with friends while your kids play? Went out last night and.....drank,smoked a doobie,etc kids hear!!! Then they also talk with each other!! about what they all "know".
So this is my thing..
I will tell them the truth from the begining!!(it really does get more comfortable talking about hard things) And the result of that? My kids tell me about pot,guns,sex,etc what they hear from other kids! So I can fix the "mis-information" now!!! what there curious about,eg: kissing, kids smoking joints that are in grade four behind the play ground!! what words are offensive,etc Why? Becuase they trust that I will tell them the truth. (IE yes pot is illegal,yes I do smoke pot, is mommy breaking the law? technically yes,are police bad? no it's there job. Who makes these choices about laws? government, but used to be the people, you have to educate yourself and vote, etc about all subjects, how do you get pregnant mommy? ahh more inportantly sweety how do you NOT get pregant, do you know? there's this little pill...etc)
Do I want my kids to smoke pot? If there responsable. Do they still go to school? do they get good grades? do they have a part time job? do they help out at home? If they DON'T do these things. They shouldn't smoke pot (pot should be used a a recreactional realxent = like alcohol) because all there time IS recreational already. They need to get some work done.
BUT......
IF there responsable (within the boundrys of being a youth still IE: will still mess up regularly, but with way less important matters) what reason would I have to say no? other than my personal fears(which have no place in "rational" choices)??
Would I prefer they got it from me/or hung out in my basment and smoked??? HEll yes!!!
To me that's the "safe" that's realistic. Kids do stupid things! Kids do experiment (even the really anal one's have tried things,just they still lye about it). There is no "perfect" kid!!! Yuppies,bangers,rich or poor, what ever, nobody has a "perfect" child. You wern't one. I wasn't one.Your kids won't be one!(hard to deal with I know)
So in my opinion of parenting..
I am doing the right thing! I'm being honest with my children. I'm educating them / preparing them for the realities of the world( how to make there own choices, when mommy can know longer hold there hand) I'm keeping them safe from "bad prodiciments" (IE trying something new at a party) and last but not lest......
There is know safer place for a child to be, then within there mommys nest!
Peace!
Bong out.